Marriage is a union between two people that is religiously and culturally recognized. Spouses
come together to form a marriage. The two have obligations to each other that they are supposed
to perform in the society. A relation is a unit that is made up of two people that come together
with the aim of dating. There are many challenges that the people face in the relationships that
put a strain on the way they relate with each other. There are also some factors that make the
relationships to be successful. This paper addresses the issues that cause the relationships or
marriages to break (Jerskey et. al., 2010).
Factors that lead to the failure of relationships or marriages
One of the factors that cause the failure of the relationships or marriage is lack of loyalty among
the partners. It reaches a point where the people who are in a relationship are not loyal to each
other. Many relationships face the issues that may lead to the lack of loyalty among the partners.
Some of the issues that lead to the loss of loyalty include infidelity. When a partner cheats, not
all of them come out stronger, rather some of them end up being strained and the others break.
Lack of loyalty may lead to infidelity and in some cases the latter may cause the former and in so
doing the relationship is likely to break. It is not easy to find a partner in the arms of another
person and proceed with the relationship as usual (Omage, 2013).
The other issue that causes the breakup of many relationships is lack of communication. A
relationship or marriage where the partners do not communicate effectively is bound to fail if
nothing is done about it. No relationship survives for a long time without healthy communication
among the partners. The relationships where the partners have effective communication is likely
to succeed compared to the one where the communication is poor. Communication brings the
people together while the lack of communication affects the way they associate and treat each
other. The partners that communicate effectively are able to deal with the issues that they face in
the relationship or marriage which is a situation that that leads to the longevity of the
relationships. On the other hand when the relationship or marriage lacks communication, it is
hard for the partners to deal with the challenges that they face in the relationship which is a
situation that may lead to the break of the relationship. Heated arguments and fights among the
spouses have never brought out the much needed results rather it makes the situation worse.
There are no laws that have been put in place that dictate the way the spouses are supposed to
engage In adequate communication hence the people have to make sure that they work on their
relationships as a way of ensuring they improve communication. It is therefore right for the
spouses to find time to address the issues that are affecting their marriage or relationships as a
way of sustaining them (Cox, & Demmitt, 2013).
When the spouses fail to find time and make effort to make the relationship work then the result
is usually the failure of the relationship. When the spouses fail to find time to address the issues
that are threatening the relationship then there is a high chance of the relationship failing as a
result of the threats that were not addressed. Without the required effort to create time for the
relationship, then the partners will be creating a chance for breakups. A good number of
marriages have broken because of the failure of the spouses to address the issues that are
affecting the relationships. Communication is sometimes challenging hence it requires
commitment and making sure that the partners have put in the required effort to ensure that the
relationship is successful (Cox, & Demmitt, 2013).
Insecurities are also known to be important factors that lead to the break of marriages. For a
relationship or marriage to be successful, each one requires his or her own space even when
relationship or marriage is very serious. It takes to mature people to make a given relationship to
work. The behavior of some people that includes dominating the lives of their partners does not
help the relationship rather it sets it up for a break up. Stalking a partner may make him or may
make her feel caged and may opt out of the relationship when he or she has had enough of it. A
person should not be too far from the partner and should not be too close. It is important to
practice moderation (Cox, & Demmitt, 2013).
Lack of trust has also led to the break of many marriages and relationships. Partners have to learn
how to trust each other if the marriage or relationship has to last long. Factors that can lead to
distrust include infidelity and lying. It is important to remain honest as a way of building trust in
a relationship. One thing that has led to breakup in many relationships is accusing a partner over
something that he or she has not done (Zineldin & Vasicheva, 2016).
The success of marriage is affected by the input of both partners with the aim of making the
relationship or marriage to succeed. The failure of a marriage is attributed to the errors
committed by the partners. It is important to assess the issues that are affecting the marriages as a
way of protecting them. Marriage counsellors often look for the factors that affect the marriages
and deal with them appropriately.
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