Parenting

Parenting is an essential stage in life. Children born and bred in the guidance of morally
upright parents tend to grow with integrity. They consider each stage of life with its importance
regardless of the family background without discrimination of race, gender or even social
classes. Contrary to this, the poorly raised children grow up with moral decadence in the sense
that they are not able to understand life challenges and believe that life is all round similar to
every human being on earth. These factors make it necessary for parents to take keen attention in
molding their children in the uprightness of life to be able to relate well with their fellows in their
environment.
Childhood memories shape our character and to a large extent contributed to who
we become as adults. Some childhood memories give us the building blocks we need to grow
into caring, kind, grateful human beings and other memories may leave us with feelings of
confusion, helplessness, and uncertainty of who we are in the world or where we fit in. Nancy
grew up in an environment that taught her helpless and uncertainty due to the fact that she went
to a foster home at an early age and it was extremely confusing for her. As an adult, although
she realizes why she has abandonment issues, she has a difficult time navigating the world
because of her experience. In Erickson’s Stages of Psychological Development, it states in stage
three that Initiative vs. Guilt that “Guilt is a confusing new emotion” and she felt a lot of guilt
concerning her mother being gone. In another instance, Nancy moved into a neighborhood
where her family was the only white people in a predominantly black neighborhood. The people
who lived there knew a white family was moving in and they broke out all the windows in their
apartment before they moved in. This was during the civil rights movement, and it was scary for
her and her family. In American History X, Derek’s father taught him to be prejudice through the
things he said and therefore passed his ideas and ideals on to Derek. Much the same thing

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happened with the neighborhood, and they also learned their prejudice from their parents and
community.
Parents form our character and give us the tools we need to get along in the world.
Through their guidance, we learn to navigate situations and hopefully contribute to the world as a
whole. Parents can also negatively affect how we think and act in situations. Nancy did not
know her dad; her dad left her mom when she was just born, he was an alcoholic. Her stepdad
was in the service and gone a lot when he was home they fought a lot. He was very distant. Her
mom was very dysfunctional and did not work, they were poor, and her mom suffered from
depression for many years, as well as being bipolar. She was in Napa State for a while and got
shocked treatments there. After that, her mother was very medicated and could not take care of
her and her siblings. She did not have a role model as Malala did. In the book “I am Malala,” her
father is a hero, and a role model for Malala. She grew up in a home that embraced equal rights,
and she, therefore, went on to be a role model herself for other girls in her community and
eventually the world. Nancy did not have a hero or anyone to look up to. She always looked up
to people who seemed to have stable home lives probably because she did not. She did not learn
compassion and kindness at home or school.
The school was important to Nancy because it gave her a sense of identity. At school,
she was rewarded for getting good grades, and she was very well liked. She was on the Student
Body and was a cheerleader; this gave her purpose and positive feedback something that she did
not get at home. Eventually, Nancy started hanging out with kids who drank and got in trouble
because she had no support or guidance from home. Nancy was always afraid something bad
would happen. That was during the time drugs were coming into the picture during the sixties,
and that made Nancy feel very unsafe and unstable. Some of my friends were trying different

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things, and she just thought how crazy it all seemed. She had too much freedom as a teenager,
and that also lent itself to a lot of anxiety. Children need support and guidance, especially at that
age. In Erickson’s Stage of Psychological Development stage five Identity vs. role confusion
“this is the stage in which adolescents experience some role confusion and are trying to fit in.”
This proved to be problematic for Nancy because she, as many teenagers do, wanted to fit in
even at the expense of possibly getting into trouble.
Nancy’s family value is to do the best you can at whatever it is you want to achieve.
Nancy did not get this from her upbringing, so she wanted to instill it in her children. She was
always there, she did not work, supported them in school and sports, and she tried to instill a
sense of self in them. Some people feel comfortable in even the most dysfunctional families as
in the documentary “Born into Brothels” when I asked Nancy why she thought she turned out so
different from her mom and her upbringing she stated that although she did not have a role
model, she knew what she did not want to do, but some people find it more comfortable to repeat
the same scenario as they had as children even if that scenario is entirely dysfunctional.
Nancy did have one incidence of being bullied in the seventh grade. One of the girls
did not like her and wanted to fight her so that girl told her to go to the park after school. Nancy
was terrified because the girl was huge and she thought the girl was going to kill her. But Nancy
was very well liked, and her friends were bigger than she was so the girl backed down and left
her alone.
Relationship between Nancy’s Bully and bullied the Jamie Nabonzy. These two cases
of bullies have a lot of things in common. Both Nancy and Jamie appear to be coming from
homes where the parents are distant and not readily available to attend to the needs of their
children. Both of them report cases of being bullied but they are not taken very seriously by their

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parents. Jamie decide to run away from home when he thought that whatever he was going
through is too much and he cannot take it in any longer. Nancy however enjoys the protection of
friends and when the bullies appear, she is not worried but she is confident that she will be
protected. In both cases we can see the peer influence in its truest form as both are lured into bad
habits by their friends. Nancy is introduced to drugs by her school friends while Jamie is
introduced to gay sex by his friends too. While Nancy is bold enough to confide in her parents
and her relatives, Jamie opts to be silent and the silence works against him.
In conclusion, education holds the key to success in every individual life in every domain of life.
Proper training in childhood shapes life and creates long-lasting memories that enables children to grow
into better adults. With their brain as a blank slate, whatever is pasted in their sub-conscious dictates the
kind of people they would be in the future society. Alongside home training, school exposure is equally
essential since it exposes children to different activities and situation. Through their interactions while in
school makes them better people who can solve problems and make the right decisions in life. No child
whatsoever should be denied the opportunity to undertake formal education through going to school.
Question 1: In your opinion, do you think it’s better for children to have a first language that is not
English? What are the disadvantages and the advantages of being bilingual?
Yes, it is essential for children to have their first language. Having approved of that, bilingual is
very necessary due to its advantages. It helps an individual to improve his or her competitiveness in the
job market. It opens up carrier opportunity to individuals due to global market demand. Moreover, it also
enhances the skills of solving problems, proper decision making as well as multitasking. However, it also
has disadvantages such as having trouble choosing the best language to speak, resulting from limited
vocabularies. It also consumes time since one has to retrieve information from one word to another.

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Question 2: Do you believe that with the current administration and the shortage of nurses should
Congress pass an act similar to the Immigration Nursing Relief Act. If not what do you think they
would or should do in order to minimize such a shortage
I do not believe that Congress should pass an act similar to the Immigration Nursing Relief Act
because there is already a shortage experienced. It is prudent that nurses be added in significant numbers
reason being, they play a vital role in paying close attention to the patients. In addition to that, they ensure
that patients take their prescriptions as prescribed by the doctors. They also ensure that the sanitary levels
of the patients are maintained, thus raising the urgency with which they should employ in large numbers,
against the immigration mentioned above act. This enables patients to get full attention as they undertake
their medication.