Polyamory is the practice of loving more than one person at the same time. People who engage
in such relationships prefer open relationships where there is no jealousy of monogamy. They
tend to move away from the intimate relationships that would tie them to one partner. Individuals
may choose to be polyamorous because they consider monogamy to be burdensome and
undesirable because it ties an individual to one partner. Some men might choose it because of the
notion that it presents the men’s patriarchal control of the women. Most men would like to
always be in control of the women in the society, which explains why polyamory is very rampant
in the society today. People may also choose to be polyamorous because of a deep-rooted culture
of polygamy in a given culture that makes them desire the love of several women at the same
time (Aguilar, 2012, 104).
Several challenges are faced by the monogamous individuals that may make one to desire
polygamy. For instance, the monogamous relationships tend to tie a person down to a particular
lady and may feel restricted. Such individuals are likely to look for freedom by having various
intimate relationships with different women. The monogamous individuals might get used to
each other to the extent that they get tired of each other, which is an open challenge that is faced
by the monogamous individuals in the society (Robinson, 1997, 144).
There are several benefits of polyamory that makes many people attracted to it. For instance, the
polyamorous individual is protected from the pressures that are associated with monogamy such
as the extreme jealousy of the partner that makes life uncomfortable. The second advantage is the
fact that an individual can benefit from a variety of relationships in such a way that it will make
their life much more interesting (Robinson, 1997, 144).
Feminists argue that polyamory distracts the gender roles. Every society has gender roles that are
prescribed for the people. The practice of having many partners may, therefore, interrupt the
performance of such roles in the society according to the feminists. They also argue that
polyamoury encourages sexual autonomy among the women in a given society. In the
monogamous set-up, the women accused the men of infidelity, but the former was expected to be
faithful to their husbands. The practice of polyamory, therefore, allows the women to fulfill their
sexual desires (Aguilar, 2012, 104).
There is a difference between the long-term polyamorous relationship and casual dating of
multiple people. In a polyamorous relationship, people are in love with several partners as
oppose to dating where a person may get a random individual and date him or her. In my
opinion, polyamory is the cause of many cases of confusion that are experienced today. One
person may choose to be polyamorous, but one of the persons that he is in a relationship with
might be interested in making it monogamous hence causing a fallout with the other lovers. Non-
monogamy is, therefore, a bad idea as far as the relationships are concerned. However, it is better
to let an individual choose what is best for him or her.
Aguilar, J. (2012). Situational Sexual Behaviors. Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, 42(1),
Robinson, V. (1997). My baby just cares for me: Feminism, heterosexuality and
non‐monogamy. Journal of Gender Studies, 6(2), 143-157.